Today, let us look at in, “Wired Different Part Two” our man.
Yesterday, we mostly talked about the women and how we are wired differently.
Today let us observe our husbands. What are some of the universal obvious
differences?
First, men compartmentalize. They can sort and tag their
emotions, keeping them separate and apart. The wire leaves from their brain to
each individual box. Ours are all over the place.
When our husbands go to work, they are focused there, at
work. When they come home, work stops and it is usually home time, TV time and
that is where they sit, focused. We can’t phantom in our brain how they do that
when we are all over the place.
They will do what is asked most times, but we get so upset
because we have to ask. If we only understood it is not because he doesn’t care,
it’s just because he don’t think about it, if he is doing something else, like
looking at TV. J
Unfortunately, we relate doing with caring. He relates doing with needs, and he
means no harm. Example
- · Family need a place to stay- wire to work box
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My family need to eat –wire to financial box
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We need health insurance –wire to negotiation box
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Wife sick -wire to Jesus box
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Wife needs emotion support- huh?
No, the emotional support box is a box that’s added;
something that had to be taught, as a child or explained and absorbed into the
marriage later, so when it is needed, it can be squeezed out.
The wife doesn’t always get his, one at a time
compartmentalizing, because we are all over the place. Example;
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My family needs a place to stay –wire to Jesus,
work, financial, friend comfort and keep y’all eyes open box.
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My family need to eat – wire to Jesus, work,
financial, food bank (negotiation box)
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We need health insurance –Wire to work,
financial, negotiation, what if box
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My husband feel neglected - huh, well wire to
communication, emotion, Jesus, physical attention box.
The key is we are all over the place and we have boxes our
husbands don’t have in their existence. God create all men equal with the same
opportunity to come to Him for whatever is needed, but we are physically and
emotionally different.
Men are driven by the essence of a woman. As a wife it
should only be used for good. I have seen many times it has been used for evil.
Men can love just as hard as a woman, which shows he has an emotional
box as well. Where we, as women error, is we don’t recognize that his “love
emotion box” is NOT tied to the “physical emotion box”. They are separate
compartments; one has absolutely nothing to do with the other.
God knew that and that is one of the reasons why He says sex
should be between a husband and his wife. When love is already there for the
man, sex will not only satisfy his burning desire, but truly satisfy the
woman’s as well, because she can tied the emotions to the physical bringing and
uniting the two together creating a bond that seals.
When we can truly tap into understanding, the one we love
and how we are wired differently, we can exist, most of the time, in harmony;
creating that bond that is everlasting, and fulfilling our true commitment of,
“until death do us part.”
I hope you have enjoyed, Part I and Part II of Wired
Differently. I hope it can help in understanding us, as well as our spouses and
it will be used to enhance your relationship.
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