What If

Author: Sharon Verrett

My youngest son use to bog me down, when he was younger with, “What if” scenarios and each time I’d think and give him an answer, “Mom, what if that tree falls in the road, right now. What would you do?” He would give me about five or six of his little scenarios before I’d say, “enough already, with the ‘what if’s.’”

Today, I pose a “What if” to you. What if you know today is the last day you have to spend with someone you love dearly? What if that someone is your spouse? What if you know at six o’clock pm, today, that spouse will no longer be in your presence, for eternally.

How will you spend today? What will you say to your spouse this morning? How will you view your spouse? What will you two talk about? Will it be about all the good times you’ve had together or will it be a day of apologies? Will today be the day you can finally say the words, “I really love you.”

Would that argument you had recently seem as important? Would you look at your spouse with different eyes, trying to make as many detailed physical memories as possible? Would you begin to think about all the great memories you two have already made?

Would you hold on, tightly to your spouse all day and pray, until that final moment your spouse leaves you forever?

My friend, no one knows where death is. We must be consciously, kind as much as we can and find comfort in our choices on how we choose to treat our spouses and others, because this may, very well be our last moments together. Let us have no regrets.

I say, “Consciously kind,” because this takes effort. There may be times this doesn’t work, but let it not be because of you. When it is not because of you; it is then when you can find comfort in the choice we may be forced to make, even if there is some disappointment, that choice couldn’t have been different.

Remember the story of the rich man and Lazarus in the bible, Luke 16:19-31? The rich man had the opportunity to be kind and helpful; however he chose a different route. The rich man not knowing where death was and the punishment he would receive for his actions, chose the low road of none kindness.

God gave poor Lazarus a rich reward as he rested in Abraham’s bosom and the rich man was tormented for his actions. If you have not read this passage of scriptures, I would suggest it. It is indeed a great story of choices, rewards and the inability to be naturally kind.

So, friends we may not have another opportunity to get it right. Be kind to one and other. Love your spouse and all their imperfections; retain the fact that we are NOT truly their better half, because we, too have imperfections.

Remembering my youngest son, who now has his own beautiful wife, I will pose this final question. What if this was our last hours together and we have everything right with our God, what other imperfections really matter?

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