Riding Solo

Have you ever felt like you were riding solo when dealing with life’s issues? Read this story of the new young mother.

After giving birth to her first child, the young mother started experiencing these feeling that she had never seen or heard of any other mother experiencing.  All she’d ever seen was, seeing mothers with new babies seeming to be so happy and joyous, mothers appearing to bask in the new little bundle of joy with so much affection. They seem to have everything in control and doing everything right.

This mother wasn’t feeling that. She felt no connection to her little newborn. She felt ashamed of herself for having these feelings. So she didn’t want to share her feelings with anyone else. All she felt was along, as if she was riding solo.

Something must be wrong with me, she thought. Her doctor never told her anything about these feelings and how these feelings may happen after giving birth. He never told her that many mothers experience these same feelings.

So she felt along and went into this deep dark place of depression, because of her shame and thinking she was the only one ever having felt this way.

Now one of her dear friends had noted her distance and tried to get her to open up. Finally, she did after her friend kept trying. The wonderful thing the young mother learned was there was nothing wrong with her.

These feelings are normal and thousands of women experience this feeling after the child’s birth. Now she feels relieved and normal again. They set up and plan to get her past these feeling. The new mother even talked to other mothers who had the same feelings, some were friends and some were older mothers. How comforting is that, to know you don’t have to ride solo.

The wise man Solomon said in Ecclesiastes 1:9 says, “What has been done will be done again; there is nothing new under the sun.” How true is that?! So very true, if we pay attention.

This is true in every facet of life from life to death and all of the dash in between. There is nothing that is done, felt or said, in this human cycle of life that has not been done, said or felt already.

So find comfort in marital situations, jobs, child birth, child rearing, aging and death, knowing that your struggles are not something new. Your neighbor or dear friend may have or have had the same life situation you are experiencing this very moment.

They got through it and know that you can too, but if you don’t ask, you want know. There is no reason for anyone today to ride solo when you can place God, the dearest friend, in control, He can send a vessel for comfort.

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