I Love You

Author: Sharon Verrett

“I love you,” seem to be three of the hardest words for some people to say. It sits up at the top of the list with, “I am sorry.”

Like, “I am sorry,” “I love you,” shows emotions.

A woman is more likely to say it, quicker than a man, why, because men don’t think about it, they are attached to the physical, they are just not there yet or the words mean commitment.  That is fine for the dating seen, but what happens when it over into the marriage seen?

Well, that is why communication is important, before commitment. We get what we date and now is not the time to act disappointed. “But he changed,” you cry. Did he or were you so in love you were willing to except him as he was and work on changing him later?

Well, at this point, we can and need to communicate. Express our needs to each other. How important it is to hear the words said to us. We must also remember love is not only what you say, but what you do.

I ask, Is it more important to say, “I love you,” with no substance or  never say, “I love you,” but every facet of your spouse's existence and commitment speaks it?

If your spouse is holding down the fort in all areas except the emotional words, “I love you,” you are truly blessed, some may say. However, it doesn't matter, if you don't feel that emotional connection, because you need to hear the words.

Talk to your spouse and tell him/her how important it is to hear the words now and then. Tell them you love them and help them to say the words.

There may be something deep, way back in their childhood on why they can’t seem to express the words. The more love and understanding you show them, in time the emotion may be returned.

Just remember you don’t get to set the timer. Pray for your spouse that the day will come when he/she can verbally recite the words that you deem import to your relationship.

Our God hears and understand your desires before they are ever mentioned, but He too, likes communication.

So do all you can as communicate your needs to our God and find comfort keeping hope alive, until that day come when things change. That day when you so I love you and your spouse reply, I love you too.

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