Nobody Asked You!

Spontaneous

Author: Sharon Verrett

www.saverrmarriage.com

To be spontaneous can most definitely have its place in marital enhancement. I can be spontaneous when it is something small, like a spontaneous lunch date, dinner date or a gift.

Things that don't involve planning or too much thinking is my definition of spontaneous.

Well, my Kevin can be impulsive and spontaneous in a good way, most of the time, and always meaning well.

As we watched TV Friday night, He posed that we would have this great date night on Saturday.

"Let's get dressed up, go to dinner at a fine restaurant, tour downtown, check into one of the down town hotels, check out Sunday morning and head to church,"

Most wives would flip over with excitement. I guess I am rather strange, as it has been noted before. J

"What?" I thought. Well …all my senses of why it's not a great idea, started to pop into my head, as I stared at him for a moment.

These were some of my thoughts, I am tired.

·         I finally got a Saturday off and I really want to just stay home.

·         I so do not feel like dressing up!

·         I don't want to waste money staying in a hotel when we can just come home.

Every thought said, "No," but there was this tiny little voice inside saying, why can't you just go? Look at how excited he was when he posed the thought. Do you really want to bust his bubble with, "No?"

I posed a compromising question, "How about if we leave town?" Somehow I seem to have had a problem with paying for a hotel in town.

He thought that was a good idea. Then, I started to think about our ten year old grandson, who we are raising, his Saturday game, who will keep him, we still have to pack, and on and on.

That was a true example of over-thinking. I am the advocate for "Date Night" and spontaneous thinking. What is wrong with me at this moment, I thought.

So, I went against everything I thought about, inside and said, "Okay, let's go to Myrtle Beach."

I could see the enthusiasm in his face, as he agrees and we went on with our Friday evening.

Point ...we can over think ourselves out of some of the best times ever with our spouses, because of excuses of why it's not a good idea today.

Tomorrow, next week, next month or next year is not promised and all we have is today.

So, as I sit here reflecting, sharing cherished, great made memories, I thought about the fact that often as wives we overthink. Over thinking could have caused me to have missed out on a great memorable weekend.

I share, hoping to help us all not to miss out on precious moments, because of overthinking. I am so glad I went against my conflicting thoughts and pushed myself to go with his impulsive, spontaneous thought.

Therefore, in an effort to enjoy some of the wonderful pleasures marriage has to offer today, we must step out of our comfort zones and welcome or create spontaneous moments, as I minister to you today, I also minister to myself. ;)