Contingency

Author: Sharon Verrett

http://www.saverrmarriage.com

When did the world become a world of contingency? Contingency can have its good when providing for incidentals and accidents.

But when we enter into marriage with a provision for contingencies, we often set ourselves up for failure. It’s sort of like, “If I don’t study and I fail the exam, I will still pass the class anyway, because my dad owns the school, so who will fail me? I have that extra cushion, no worries. My success is not contingent on how well I do.”

The failure has already happened, before the exam has taken place. It’s the attitude. When we have things already in place, just in case something fails, we tend to give up too easily. It takes the fight away. We have a cushion, for failure.

If we have something in place in case the marriage fail, we give up, take our toys and quit. When we have something in place, we don’t take the institutions of marriage as seriously. We place value on things, rather than the value of the marriage.

When we understand there should be no contingency when we make the decision to marry, we will have a better fight against Satan’s ploys and we will work much harder to make our marriages work.

I know many scholars will say, marriage is until death do us part, contingent on the faithfulness of the two, if there is no adultery. That would be true, as it says in Matthew 19:9.

However, many enter the institution without knowing that there is the only one acceptable decision to divorce. We think, well if it doesn’t work, I’ll just get a divorce… and do what, I ask? If the reason wasn’t for adultery, we can only stay single until death do us part.

So, think long and hard about the commitment of marriage. It is nothing to play with or walk away from because it no longer working for us.

We must fight for our marriages, like we fight to keep our stuff. We must fight for our marriages, just like our lives depends on it, because our eternal life’s contingency is very well based upon how well we managed our marriages, along with the other commandments our God has set forth.