Rome Was Not Built in a Day

Author: Sharon Verrett
http://www.saverrmarriage.com

"Rome wasn't built in a day”; my mom would always say when a task was before me that would take time. I was sometimes the, “Here and now” and “Are we there yet” type child. As, I grew, I often had to replay her voice in my mind, Rome was not built in a day.

As I have matured J I often look around at the youth, the microwave generation and I can sometimes reflect. I realize we (older generation) have much to offer them, but will they listen, will they absorb? If not then, will they at least place it in there tool boxes and use in case of emergency.

We never know how much is being absorbed by our youth. Nonetheless, it is still our job to teach. We teach as we talk and we teach as we live.

The most difficult job to teach is patience. It starts very early. As parents, if will fail to teach our young to wait, we are doing them a disservice and it will spill over into every aspect of their lives as they grow, even into their marriages.

I find that one of the biggest mistakes young couples make is, they want to live as their parents live now, the house, car and other material possessions. They fail to realize it took many-many years for their parents to arrive at the point they now see.

They need to understand, it is okay to dream, but dream of a plan in reality. Dreams without plans are the prerequisite for failure. Most parents don’t start out successful, unless it was passed on by fore parents. Even then to continue the success, you must plan, train and work.

Newly married couples who make that attempt to live like their parents or other established couples, often find themselves in a whirlpool of debt, which brings its own marital miseries and woes.

Learn patience; learn to take those baby steps. Don’t get caught up in what other couples are doing or have in their possession. Work hard with the right framed mind and all things that our God desires you to have will indeed belong to you, in due time.

The bible talks about coveting, Roman 7:7 and Acts 20:33-35. It says coveting is something we should not do. When we learn to positively focus on the needs of others more than ourselves with the blessing He has allowed us to have; we are truly already blessed already, because we have the means to help someone else.

So let us learn patience. Let us stay focus. Let us appreciate the blessing of marriage -where we are now -in the present. Let us enjoy the things that we have in our possession that others may not. Let us not covet and learn to count the blessing we cannot buy or plan, the blessing of love, health and family.

It’s good to have plans for success, but let us not lose focus, forgetting God’s grace and appreciating where we are, because there are always lessons to learn in helping us to grow, even in the negatives. So grow in your marriage, in love and appreciation. Plan for successes and always remember Rome was not built in a day!