I Should Be Married

Many young ladies have a feeling that comes over them, thinking, I should be married, as they reach a certain age.

The age is unspoken, yet sometimes spoken. I can remember in my days, it was twenty-five.

If you weren't married by the age of twenty-five, you were considered an old maid. Imagine the pressure that can put on a young female.

Today, many are choosing higher education rather than marrying, what is considered early. They choose to advance in their careers and marry later somewhere in their thirties, caring less what others think.

This was part of a conversation I had with my niece today. She said I should share it, as I explained to her how marriage being such a serious commitment and one that she truly doesn't have time for at this point in her life.

Don’t misunderstand me. I love the institution of marriage and believe everyone should get married. However I am a realist. It’s not for everyone.

My niece, at this time is career driven and she has no time for herself, and definitely no time to nurture a marriage. However, she feels at this point she should be married, "I will be thirty soon," she says.

There is no rule of when we should marry in reference to age. The bible has the only rule and it says, "it is better to marry, than to burn." So that is when we should put everything aside and marry if we can't sustain from sexual immorality.

In life, we've learned, with all our choices come sacrifices. As much as I love my Kevin, I had to sacrifice many things for our marriage. He never asked me to do so, but it's called, knowing your mate.

Because I married young, I had to do all my higher levels of education while being married. I tell you it was grueling. Studying, working and being a wife was challenging. Then, children came into the marriage, which is a whole different entity.

Because, my niece is determined to finish nursing school, in which I commend and admire her self-discipline, she has to sacrifice marriage at this time, knowing she could not fairly give to a husband what he needs.

That is an unselfish, highly considerate act and it is something to be considering before taking on such a commitment.

 

I pray that she can find a great husband someday and she can be the wife that God has instructed, and then her sacrifice will have paid off.

Consider yourself as you ask God to send you a God fearing man. Consider what you have to offer a marriage and not just a thought of, I should be married, make sure you are ready and it is indeed what you want.

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