You Get What You Pick

I love to hear children play. They have all sorts of kid’s sayings and some can have a bit of underlined wisdom if you listen. One I've heard my grandson say in the past to the other grands is, "You get what you get and don't make a fit!" I often think of that in marriage as,” You get what you picked and don't make a fit.”

Often we, go into marriage peeping or with our eyes wide shut. We date for a minute or sometimes for a longer period, before we make the commitment to marry and are later surprised or disappointed in the mate we have chosen.

Yes, we stand disappointed. However, the person that we plan to marry will usually have shown you who they truly are within the first six months of the relationship, if we are paying attention.

 

I like what Maya Angelou said, "When a person shows you who they are, believe them." Believe them rather than trying to make excuses for them. Believe them rather than thinking you can change them later. Believe them rather than thinking they are reacting in that manner because it's your fault.

Unfortunately, if you chose to marry before that six months’ time, you may not see it until it is too late.

As women we tend to become emotionally tied quicker than men. Men are not as emotional, their moves are calculatingly and purposeful. They move with thought and reasoning, like a tiger. Our emotional sense can tell us what those calculating, purposeful thoughts and reasoning are, if we are paying attention and not overcome by our emotions.

His reason could be because he truly desire to be with you and everything he does will show that to be the case. However, within that six months frame, you notice he wants you all to himself, he doesn't want you to have any connection with your family, you have to ask yourself, "What is his purpose and is it a good time to run?"

We make the biggest mistake when we think we can change his calculated mind and purpose and an even larger mistake if we chose to marry him with the hope that he will change later.

Let us pay attention to the seriousness of marriage, choosing what we want before that big day, chose what fits in God's word.

We would never take home a pair of shoes that are two sizes too small with the intent to stretch them when we get them home, all because they look so good or you love that style, right?

Then, why marry someone whom you have no desire, with a plan to make it work later. What happens if the attempt to change him later, doesn't work? Wouldn't that be burdensome? In that case you’ll have to live with the saying of, "You get what you picked, and don't make a fit." 

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